Friday, February 08, 2008

Self Esteem

Yesterday, the nurse manager at my pediatrician's office came out to the waiting room to coo at someone's baby and took several minutes to recognize me. I only had one baby with me, see, and besides, that she claims not to have recognized me since I apparently am continuing to lose weight (I'm not still losing much weight, but I think it continues to re-distribute). Those of you who have met me in person know that I'm anything but slender, but if you knew me pre-triplets, you know that I *have* lost a great deal of weight. I'm down about 70 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight, but before you get all impressed, I still have 30 or 40 pounds to lose before I'm anywhere near my "ideal" weight.

Still, it felt great yesterday to hear the nurse say, "Oh my goodness, I didn't even recognize you, skinny mama!" and then she turned to one of the other mothers in the waiting room and told her I was a new mother to triplets and the mother looked at me and said, "You look AMAZING!" In fact, every time someone in my doctor's waiting room finds out I'm a mother to triplet infants, they tell me how fantastic I look. This must be why I love my pediatrician so much!

And then when I left the office, I ran into a member of my synagogue whom I haven't seen since I was on bed rest, when she paid a shiva visit to my husband last summer. And she couldn't get over how I looked. "You look incredible!" she said.

Gosh. Thanks!

I know I still have a really long way to go before I'm anywhere near where I'd like to be... but gosh... it's so nice that people notice that there's been SOME change. And it's nice that perfect strangers feel compelled to tell me I look great when they hear that I've got triplets. I've been feeling a bit blue the past couple weeks, but these little ego boosts are really kind of helping. So... wow!

9 comments:

amber said...

i'm so happy to hear that you're getting compliments and some happy attention from folks --- especially after all you've been going through. while i may not know you, it sounds like from everything you've posted here you more than deserve these compliments. don't fight it. just take them in and allow yourself to bask in the attention for a little while :)

nickoletta100 said...

OK, you cannot write a post like that and not add a picture showing US how grreat you look!!! I want a picture so I can admire you too!!!

Unknown said...

i LOVE that! i am getting that a lot too, but from people who don't know that i still have fifteen pounds before i hit my prepregnancy weight. i just looked SO BIG and swollen at the end of my pregnancy, that anything is an improvement now. :P

we definitely need some before and afters!
(oh yeah, this is pam, posting under another address.)

littleangelkisses said...

YAY for the compliments!! YAY for Ellie gaining weight to! A good week for all huh?

The Amazing Trips said...

Breastfeeding triplets will do that to you ... it's like having three little fat suckers!!

I lost almost of my pg weight with our triplets before they were 6 months old >> and with the new baby, I've lost it all by the time he was around 4 mos. (That should tell you how much the kiddo eats. He was almost 20 lbs at his 4 mo. checkup).

So, are you smelling like Aunt Jemima yet? :)

The Amazing Trips said...

ps: great news on Ellie. I'm so relieved to hear that she is finally gaining weight!!

Rachel Inbar said...

70 pounds!?! That's incredible. I hope you're making sure to eat healthy! Your clothes must be falling off...

Sunny said...

You are a hot mama!!!!

hadjare said...

Boosts of self esteem are SO valuable because they are so unexpected. :D