Some recent comments and emails

Rachel Inbar said: Maybe I'm reading between the lines, but you sound pretty happy to me.

Babies kicking? Yes, I'm happy (if still a bit weirded out). It's neat, and it's a sure sign that they're still bouncing around in there, that they are growing, and that everything is happening as it should be. So definitely happy. Inability to keep food or fluids down? Not so happy. I can now keep fluids down, which is the important bit, but haven't kept much more than broth down all weekend, which isn't particularly pleasant.

I also received a couple very nice emails last week and over the weekend. Several people have contacted me via email recently who also have triplets or who are expecting triplets, including several local triplet moms. One such triplet mom who is local to me and saw the same perinatology practice that I'm seeing was worried that I would think she was freakish and weird for emailing me randomly... but that's half the fun of having a blog. Plus, if I didn't expect people would email me directly, I wouldn't publish my email address in my sidebar. So seriously... if you have something to say or ask or just mention and you don't think it's appropriate for a comment or you think it's more private than a comment, please email me. I love receiving your emails and while I'm not always super-quick to respond to email these days, I do my best and I generally DO get to it within a few days.

I am astounded at how quickly I've become a triplet blog resource of sorts. Suddenly women who are newly pregnant with triplets are finding my blog and writing and asking about my experience. I feel so ill-qualified to address any such questions, since I'm only 20 weeks pregnant... but on the other hand, I remember that when I first found out I was pregnant with triplets, it never occurred to me that I would make it to 20 weeks, and here I am. I received one such email this weekend:

Do you ever get past feeling like you’ve been hit by a truck and left for dead?!? I know- funny, but not funny. I’m at 7w5d and am just praying that this will pass- at least lighten up at some point. (It blows my mid that you’ve been able to work this whole time.)
Also wondering- do you ever reach a point where you stop freaking out about having 3 babies? Do you get used to the idea?

I sent an inadequate response, I fear, but I also thought this might be a good one to blog anyway. I don't have my response available to me here, since I sent it from home, but here are a couple off-the-cuff thoughts:

Re: exhaustion... I can't say you'll ever stop being exhausted, but the really horrifying exhaustion from that early in pregnancy does abate somewhat. I'm not sure if it's that I adjusted to it, or if it's that it got a little better. I'm still exhausted ALL THE TIME, but I'm slightly more functional through my exhaustion than I was, and I don't feel quite so much like I was hit by a truck.

As for getting used to the idea of three babies... well, yes and no. I'm not freaking out about having three babies anymore, but I do have my moments where the reality hits me and hits me hard. Do you get used to the idea? Sort of. I wouldn't say I'm totally used to the idea, but I'm at this point where I'm completely attached to the idea, which is just as good. I want these three babies, scary as it is, but I admit to having some fears about how we'll manage to parent all three, and fears about how I'll get through the rest of the pregnancy and the delivery. My husband has consistently taken the news of impending triplets far more gracefully than I have and has a sort of unexplainable zen about the whole thing, but even he has a funny perspective sometimes that I'm only starting to notice. I turned to him the other night and said, "Oh my gosh! do you realize that in about three months, we're going to have THREE babies?" "Yup," he said, "It's really going to suck. I mean, it's going to be miraculous and amazing and beautiful, I'm sure, but you know... it's going to suck in a lot of ways... you think you're not sleeping now? Just you wait!" Still, I know that at this point, he wouldn't have it any other way.